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Arranged marriages ‘My husband hates me. I feel so lonely’


 

‘My husband hates me. I feel so lonely’: Brides share brutally honest confessions about their arranged marriages

  • Couples offered a candid glimpse into their arranged matches on Whisper
  • One man revealed he and his wife hated each other and had affairs  
  • On the other hand one woman said she was ‘so in love’ with her fiance 

There are many misconceptions about arranged marriages, which are often regarded as little more than just business deals.

Now couples have offered a rare glimpse into their arranged matches, posting searingly honest accounts on secrets’ sharing app Whisper.

Their tales ranged from ones of despair, as one man revealed he hated his wife and had affairs, to stories of hope – with a dater gushing that they were ‘so in love’ with their fiance.

One woman made the heart-wrenching admission that they felt 'lonely and desperate' in their coupling 

In the same vein of extra-marital affairs, one woman confessed: 'My husband is in a relationship with his colleague'

In the same vein of extra-marital affairs, one woman confessed: ‘My husband is in a relationship with his colleague’.

One desolate man revealed he and his wife resorted to affairs with other people.

He said: ‘I had an arranged marriage. Me and my wife hate each other. We agreed to have affairs and be with our significant others while we married.

He added bitterly: ‘We can’t separate because of f******* tradition’.

In the same vein of extra-marital affairs, one woman confessed: ‘I absolutely hate my arranged marriage.

‘I was forced into it and my husband is in a relationship with his colleague but I don’t know what to do.’

And revealing the cultural disparity between some different families, one woman revealed she worried what her Muslim suitor would think of her American lifestyle

And revealing the cultural disparity between some different families, one woman revealed she worried what her Muslim suitor would think of her American lifestyle

Taking advantage of the anonymity of Whisper, many users spoke frankly about things they wouldn't be able to share with their families 

Taking advantage of the anonymity of Whisper, many users spoke frankly about things they wouldn’t be able to share with their families

One user, who claimed she had an 'abusive husband' believed the country you were born in determined your fate

One user, who claimed she had an ‘abusive husband’ believed the country you were born in determined your fate

Others felt trapped and unable to confide in their parents about their true feelings 

Others felt trapped and unable to confide in their parents about their true feelings

One user called their arranged marriage 'sparkless, loveless, dead end' in a frank admission 

One user called their arranged marriage ‘sparkless, loveless, dead end’ in a frank admission.

Another dater, who seemed at a loss, asked: ‘I have an arranged marriage, my parents will disown me if I don’t marry her, but I don’t want to marry her. What am I to do?’

One woman made this heart-wrenching admission: ‘I’m a victim of arranged marriage and my husband hates me… I feel so lonely and desperate.’

And revealing the cultural disparity between some different families, one woman revealed: ‘My parents are setting up an arranged marriage for me into a religious Muslim family.

‘I’m scared as to what my potential husband will think about my tattoos  and my American lifestyle.’

It wasn't just love that was missing from one marriage, as a user revealed she had 'no repect' for her fiance

It wasn’t just love that was missing from one marriage, as a user revealed she had ‘no repect’ for her fiance

One user admittef they regretted not speaking out to stop the arranged match

One user admittef they regretted not speaking out to stop the arranged match

But it wasn't all negative admissions on the app, as one user revealed that their fiance was 'am amazing man'

But it wasn’t all negative admissions on the app, as one user revealed that their fiance was ‘am amazing man’

One woman offered a level-headed outlook on romance, admitting that she wasn't in love with her husband of two years, but conceding that she had a 'profound respect' for him

One woman offered a level-headed outlook on romance, admitting that she wasn’t in love with her husband of two years, but conceding that she had a ‘profound respect’ for him.

But it wasn’t all negative admissions on the app, as some users revealed that they were in love with their partners, and were even ‘excited and nervous’ to meet their suitors.

One user reasoned: ‘While I understand a lot of people want to choose their own love and future, I’m perfectly fine with my arranged marriage that’s coming up. My fiance is an amazing man.’

Another added: ‘I’m excited and nervous, my mom is looking for a suitor for me. I can’t wait until she finds one!

This woman said she was 'excited and nervous' to meet her potential husband 

This woman said she was ‘excited and nervous’ to meet her potential husband

And restoring some faith in the tradition, one user admitted to being 'so in love' with their chosen fiance

And restoring some faith in the tradition, one user admitted to being ‘so in love’ with their chosen fiance

Another revealed they had accepted the notion and were even excited at the prospect of meeting their suitor 

Another revealed they had accepted the notion and were even excited at the prospect of meeting their suitor

One woman admitted they felt that they were better looking than the guy that her parents had selected 

One woman admitted they felt that they were better looking than the guy that her parents had selected .

‘I’m not saying everyone needs an arranged marriage, but I don’t find the harm in one.’

One woman offered a level-headed outlook on romance, admitting that she wasn’t in love with her husband of two years, but conceding that she had a ‘profound respect’ for him.

‘I’ve been in my arranged marriage for two years now. I don’t love him in the romantic way, but we are good friends and I have a profound respect for him.

‘I just hope that we do eventually find the love we were promised.’

Proving that a physical attraction can't be dismissed when tying the knot, this woman said everything would be 110 per cent better if there was chemistry 

Proving that a physical attraction can’t be dismissed when tying the knot, this woman said everything would be 110 per cent better if there was chemistry

This woman yearned to fall in love by meeting them and getting to know them of her own accord

This woman yearned to fall in love by meeting them and getting to know them of her own accord

One girl said her parents accused her of being picky for wanting to be matched with a man who could speak the same language as her 

One girl said her parents accused her of being picky for wanting to be matched with a man who could speak the same language as her

One user revealed that they were ashamed to speak openly about their situation 

One user revealed that they were ashamed to speak openly about their situation

 

 

3 thoughts on “Arranged marriages ‘My husband hates me. I feel so lonely’

  1. Islam is just so full of crap no wonder all muslims and especially women are so miserable and angry. Now they bring their awful habits among us. Arranged marriages in Europe only happened among the so called elite to increase wealth and land. Occasionally it still happens.

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